A Nigerian lady has publicly shared her emotional distress over the persistent pressure from family and friends to get married, revealing how the constant expectations have been affecting her mental health. The young woman, who is approaching 25 years old, made her heartfelt plea on social media, specifically highlighting the impact of these pressures on her personal well-being and life decisions.
The story was first shared on the popular social media platform TikTok by user @izzza35, where she candidly recounted her experience of being constantly reminded by family members and married friends about marriage, despite her own readiness and desire to focus on figuring out her life and personal goals before making such a significant commitment.
According to her, both family and friends, particularly those who are already married, have been unrelenting in their insistence that she should settle down. She explained that this has created significant mental strain, as she feels pressured to conform to societal expectations rather than pursue her own path at her own pace.
In her own words, she addressed her relatives and friends directly:
“This is me officially calling my family members out, and calling out my friends, especially my married friends. Please let me breathe; everything isn’t about marriage. Can I breathe? Can I figure out my life?”
She further emphasized:
“You’re married, please enjoy your marriage, don’t pressure me. You guys should stop pressuring me. Yes, fine, I’ll be 25 in three weeks—there are so many of my mates who are no more. I am a Muslim, I am supposed to be married, I know, but leave me alone. There are so many things I need to figure out as a lady. I don’t even have anything to show off for. Can you guys let me breathe? This is me officially calling them out. You people are messing with my mental health. I’m tired.”
She also highlighted a recent incident involving a married friend who insisted she marry even just to have a child, stating:
“A friend of mine called me yesterday; I know she has been married for eight years. She said, ‘Zainab, you should get married, even if it’s just to have a child.’ Can you guys let me breathe?”
Her emotional plea quickly gained traction online, sparking widespread discussion and drawing numerous reactions from fellow social media users who either empathized with her situation or offered light-hearted commentary on her viral moment. Many expressed support, while some shared personal anecdotes relating to marriage pressure from their own families or communities.
See some reactions below:
Temitope🌸💋: “Wait dem don dey pressure you for house 😂😂nd here i am 25 nd my papa never for once ask boya pe shey i ave bf sef😂😂i dey wait for am.”
Idera ❤️: “Are you seriously crying 😂😂😂😂 wen you are done rewatch this video on your own your mood go change 😂.”
Mide’s yarn🧶: “And after them don drop soap or baby cloth on naming ceremony day otitan na you go Dey face the rest ….”
Zainny💗💘🦋: “Meself go do this kind video but I no go cry dem go hear shege from me 🤣🤣🤣.”
kIKSWORLD👠: “This crying make me laugh so hard 🤣🤣, God will provide you a good man 👏.”
Aisha Alhassan: “me wey marry for 12yrs now nd God never bless with child nko did I kpai u hav to b calm there’s time for everything haba.”
Maybeauty🦋💕: “Belike them no want make I marry for dis house oo them no Dey pressure me.”
Zahra🥰💞💎: “Omo you come dey cry for them eeeh Emi Omo Everybody for don collect Kai.”
Maryam meemie: “Pls stop crying sis.… them know me na, everybody go collect there size regardless of who dey are o.. nobody fit pressure me at all.”
Her viral post has sparked a broader conversation online about societal expectations, mental health, and the pressures young adults face, particularly women, as they approach milestone ages like 25, highlighting the importance of respecting individual life choices and personal readiness for marriage.
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